How good are your relationship skills?

by admin on November 2, 2008

Are you a high achiever who has some difficulty in the way you relate to others? Do you find your “personal” identity isn’t as forthright and strong as your “professional” one?  Or do you find you use skills and language that work great in the boardroom but are way over the top in a tender conversation?  Take this quiz and see how you rate from a more objective point of view.

  1. I find myself applying my own standards to the success of his career, such as hearing him describe a situation and thinking I would have handled it in a better way.



  2. In my current relationship, or in relationships past, I feel like I do more things to support him than he does to support me.



  3. I’m too exhausted at the end of the day to have much energy for playful intimacy.



  4. I don’t see my current relationship lasting much longer; I just haven’t found any compelling reason to end it.



  5. My life doesn’t offer many chances to meet interesting potential partners.



  6. I have difficulty knowing how to be vulnerable with a man without getting sucked into being someone weaker than the powerful woman I know I am.



  7. I seem to attract men who want to be taken care of. I’d love to have someone equal to me in strength and competence.



  8. I am really great at advocating for my professional needs, but when it comes to asking for what I want personally, I’m terrible at it.



  9. I only know one way to fight, and that’s to win. But I wish I knew how to be a little softer when I get in an argument with my partner, but still stand up for my own rights.



  10. Sometimes I dumb myself down for a man because I think I'll be perceived as less of a threat.