Are you losing your identity?

by Carol on September 6, 2008

Take this quiz to find out just how challenged your identity is in being present in your own life. Answer the questions accurately - no one else is watching, and if you want some real insight, you’ll need to be honest with yourself.

  1. When you shop for home furnishings or do renovations, you first consider how others will see the changes before you consider what you'd like or need.



  2. When having dinner with your spouse's business colleagues, you have stopped trying to enter the conversation in any meaningful way.



  3. Less than half of your friends could be counted on for personal support.



  4. You enjoy the feeling of walking into a store you frequent and being recognized as someone who makes large purchases.



  5. Your plans for leisure travel are based on where others have recently gone.



  6. Your self-development goals have gone underground and are now little more than fantasies, most of which you never share with others.



  7. You keep a running tab of what other spouses are wearing/driving/doing. This includes the activities/organizations in which their children are involved.



  8. Your sex life has become another duty to perform, not an activity of fulfillment or an opportunity for building intimacy with your partner.



  9. You feel like people know who you are and are always watching you in public.



  10. You frequently attend social events you don't care to attend, and socialize with people you don't connect with or like very much



  11. You fantasize occasionally about leading an entirely different life in a different place.



  12. You often feel drained or apathetic. You haven't experienced real joy or satisfaction in a long time.