Treated Like an Employee - Day Two

Randi and her husband Steve had never discussed how much was enough when it came to money and lifestyle. Although it was in Steve’s personality to intensely pursue success in his career, he admitted that one of the bigger “drivers” in his ambition was the necessity of keeping his income high to pay for the lavish lifestyle they had chosen to live, although their lifestyle choices weren’t very conscious ones.

Randi also had difficulty believing she had much choice in whether she spent her days responding to the mundane chores in their lives. But she began to realize that, unless she made the effort to understand what she wanted to do instead, she couldn’t very well expect Steve to figure it out for her.

But most importantly, Randi had to reframe what it meant to say “no”. To her, it meant creating a conflict. Getting angry was the only way she knew how to energize herself to take the risk of denying someone their request. Instead, she had to learn how to believe she had the right to say no calmly and graciously, without needing the approval of the other person.

Day Three